THOUGHTS ON FRIENDSHIP
No medicine is
more valuable, none more efficacious, none better suited to the cure of all our
temporal ills than a friend to whom we may turn for consolation in time of
trouble, and with whom we may share our happiness in time of joy.
--Saint Ailred of Rivaulx (1109-1166)
Wherever you may
be, it is your friends who make your world.
The road to a
friend's house is never long.
Some people weave
burlap into the fabric of our lives, and some weave gold thread. Both
contribute to make the whole picture beautiful and unique.
consists in forgetting what one gives, and remembering what one receives.
--Dumas The Younger
If you love
something, let it go. If it comes back, it's yours. If it doesn't,
it never really was in the first place.
Some people come
into our lives and quickly go. Some stay for awhile and leave footprints
on our hearts...and we are never, ever the same.
To love another
person is to help them love God.
The real friend is
Friendship is a
single soul dwelling in two bodies.
Friendship is the
source of the greatest pleasures, and without friends even the most agreeable
pursuits become tedious.
--Saint Thomas Aquinas
Friendship is the
only cement that will ever hold the world together.
We are all
travelers in the desert of life, and the best we can find on our journey is an
--Robert Louis Stevenson
The making of
friends who are real friends is the best token we have of a man's success in
--Edward E. Hale
There is no
wilderness like a life without friends.
Robbing life of
friendship is like robbing the world of the sun.
The most beautiful
discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing
Other people are
like a mirror which reflects back on us the kind of image we cast.
--Bishop Fulton J. Sheen
Think where man's
glory most begins and ends,
And say my glory was I had such friends.
The best portion
of a good man's life is his little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and
Friendship is Love
without his wings!
Your friendship is
the light I carry with me in my heart wherever I wander.
a human relationship signifying mutual affection, respect, and trust.
Friendship is the
golden thread that ties the heart of all the world.
We come to love
not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person
Let us be grateful
to people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls
This is the
miracle that happens every time to those who really love; the more they give,
they more they possess.
--Rainer Maria Rilke
The companions of
our childhood always possess a certain power over our minds.
--Mary Wollstonecraft Shelley
Real friendship is
a slow grower.
It is great to
have friends when we are young, but indeed it is still more so when we are
getting old. When we are youn, friends are, like everything else, a matter
of course. In the old days, we know what it means to have them.
As in the case of
wines that improve with age, the oldest friendships ought to be the most
Wherever you are,
it is your friends who make your world.
Friends are an aid
to the young, to guard them from error; to the elderly, to attend to their
wants; to those in the prime of life, to assist them to noble deeds.
If you want an
accounting of your worth, count your friends.
Without friends no
one would choose to live, though he had all other goods.
friendship--long loyal, and self-sacrificing--rested at first upon no thicker a
foundation than a kind word.
--Frederick W. Faber
The best mirror is
a trusted, old friend.
friendships have been formed in mutual adversity, as iron is most strongly
united by the fiercest flame.
--Charles Caleb Colton
In prosperity our
friends know us; in adversity we know our friends.
--John Churton Collins
Life is to be
fortified by many friendships. To love and to be loved is the greatest
happiness of existence.
Blessed are they who have the gift of making friends, for it is one of God's
best gifts. It involves many things, but above all, the power of going out
of one's self, and appreciating whatever is noble and loving in another."
False friends are like our shadow, keeping close to us when we walk in
sunshine, but leaving us the instant we cross into shade."
I don't remember when I first began
To call you "friend." One day, I only know,
The vague companionship that I'd seen grow
so imperceptibly, turned gold, and ran in tune with all I'd thought, or dared to plan.
The Christian surely means to be kind and considerate in Heaven! But why
not here on earth and in these trying circumstances where perhaps his
friends and neighbors need it most?
Friendship, indeed, is one of the greatest boons God can bestow on man.
It is a union of our finest feelings; a disinterested binding of hearts,
and a sympathy of two souls. It is an indefinable trust we repose in one
another, a constant communication between two minds, and an unremitting
anxiety for each other's souls.
--James Langdon Hill
The language of friendship is not words, but meanings. It is an
intelligence above language.
Do not keep the alabaster box of your love and friendship sealed up until
your friends are dead. Fill their lives with sweetness. Speak approving,
cheering words while their ears can hear them, and while their hearts can
be thrilled and made happier. The kind things you mean to say when they
are gone, say before they go.
Never cast aside your friends if by any possibility you can retain them.
We are the weakest of spendthrifts if we let one friend drop off through
inattention, or let one push away another, or if we hold aloof from one
for petty jealousy or heedless slight or roughness. Would you throw away
a diamond because it pricked you? One good friend is not to be weighed
against the jewels of the earth. If there is coolness or unkindness between
us, let us come face to face and have it out.
Quick before the love grows
The light of friendship is like the light of phosphorous, seen plainest
when all around is dark.
--Grace Noll Crowell
The friend who holds up before me the mirror, conceals not my smallest
faults, warns me kindly, reproves me affectionately, when I have not
performed my duty, he is my friend, however little he may appear so. But if
a man praises and lauds me, never reproves me, overlooks my faults, and
forgives them before I have repented, he is my enemy,
however much he may
appear my friend.
--Johann Gottfried van Herder
If a friend of mine gave a feast, and did not invite me to it, I should not
mind a bit. But if a friend of mine had a sorrow and refused to share it, I
should feel it most bitterly. If he shut the doors of the house of mourning
against me, I would move back again and again and beg to be admitted, so
that I might share in what I was entitled to share.
Said Mrs. Browning, the poet, to Charles Kingsley, the novelist,
"What is the secret of your life? Tell me, that I may make mine beautiful
also." Thinking a moment, the beloved author replied, "I had a friend."
There is a vast difference between putting your nose in other people's
business and putting your heart in other people's problems.
He who seeks a friend without a fault remains without one.
People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care.
Friendship is a cozy shelter from life's rainy days.
A friend is a present you give yourself.
--Robert Louis Stevenson
It costs to be a friend or to have a friend. There is nothing else in life
except motherhood that costs so much. It not only costs time, affection,
patience, love, but sometimes a man must even lay down his life for his
friends. There is no true friendship without self-abnegation, self-sacrifice.
--Anna R. Brown Lindsay
Friendship is the positive and unalterable choice of a person whom we have
singled out for qualities that we most admire.
In the progress of personality, first comes a declaration of independence,
then a recognition of interdependence.
--Henry Van Dyke
Constantly look for a new friend, a truly first-class person, one who has
the courage to criticize, to demand your best self, a person who has
different interests and different beliefs from yours, a friend for whom you
can render a constructive service. Devote energy toward making such
friends. Retain them, never let them go, and continue making new friends
until you die.
Friends should be chosen by a higher principle of selection than any
one. They should be chosen for character, for goodness, for truth
and trustworthiness, because they have sympathy with us in our best thoughts
and holiest aspirations, because they have community of mind in the things
of the soul.
We do not make friends as we make houses, but discover them as we do the
arbutus, under the leaves of our lives,
concealed in our experience.
We cannot tell the precise moment when friendship is formed. As in filling
a vessel drop by drop, there is at last a drop which makes it run over,
so in a series of kindnesses there is at last one that makes the heart run
In the hour of distress and misery the eye of every mortal turns to
friendship. In the hour of gladness and conviviality, what is our want? It
is friendship. When the heart overflows with gratitude or with any other
sweet and sacred sentiment, what is the word to which it would give
utterance? A friend.
--Walter Savage Landow
It is possible for two people who have wide differences of preference
and opinion, of habits, of teaching, of training, of background and belief
to enjoy the company of each other in many ways. Indeed, a diversity of
friendships is one of life's real enrichments. To learn of the
goodness of those who are unlike--their worth, their sincerity, their good
hearts, their good minds, their good company--is rich and rewarding. It is
wonderful to have a wide range of choice friends who can be counted on,
friends who can be enjoyed and loved and trusted.
Such is the meaning of
--Richard L. Evans
It is a noble and great thing to cover the blemishes and excuse the failings
of a friend; to draw a curtain before his weaknesses and to display his
perfections; to bury his shortcomings in silence but to proclaim his
virtues on the housetop.
The friend is the person whom one is in need of and by whom one is needed.
--Arthur Christopher Benson
Three men are my friends: he that loves me, he that hates me, and he that is
indifferent to me. Who loves me teaches me tenderness. Who hates me
teaches me caution. Who is indifferent to me teaches me self-reliance.
Life is a sweeter, stronger, fuller, more gracious thing for the friend's
existence, whether he be near or far. If the friend is close at hand,
that is best; but if he is far away he is still there to think of, to
wonder about, to hear from, to write to , to share life and experience with,
to serve, to honor, to admire, to love.
--Arthur Christopher Benson
True friends are those who, when you've make a fool of yourself, don't think
you've done a permanent job.
It is smart to pick your friends--but not to pieces.
A true friend is one who thinks you're a good egg even though you're
Friendship, in its truest sense, is next to love the most abused of words.
One may call many "friend" and be still ignorant of that sentiment, cooler
than passion, warmer than respect, more just and generous than either,
which recognizes a kindred spirit in another, and, claiming its right, keeps
it sacred by the wise reserve that is to friendship what the purple bloom is
to the grape, a charm which once destroyed can never be restored.
A friend is one who incessantly pays us the compliment of expecting from us
all the virtues,
and who can appreciate them in us.
--Henry David Thoreau
A friend is one in whom we can confide. The secret chambers of our soul
open to his touch on the latch.
--J. E. Dinger
A blessed thing it is to have a friend; one human soul whom we can trust
utterly; who knows the best and worst of us, and who loves us in spite of
all our faults; who will speak the honest truth to us, while the world
flatters us to our face, and laughs at us behind our back; who will
give us counsel and reproof in a day of prosperity and self-conceit; but
who, again, will comfort and encourage us in days of difficulty and sorrow,
when the world leaves us alone to fight our own battle as we can.
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